Get Out of Your Own Way
As much as office professionals hate to acknowledge it, many of our problems in life are brought on by ourselves. This is frustrating because it sounds so counterintuitive to everything else we do to make ourselves successful. We work hard so that we can grow in our chosen professions. We budget our money so that we can have nice things someday. We run for an hour every afternoon to maintain our health, mind and spirit. And yet we tear ourselves down. We lose our confidence. We overeat and drink too much. We become insecure. We let others influence, if not outright control, how we feel. And this is ridiculous.
This article explains, "If you take things personally, you make yourself a victim of anything that others say or do. This is like riding bumper cars and feeling outraged that others are colliding into you! Some may hit you because they are being careless or they have no control over their car. Others may crash into you deliberately. It would be quite silly to feel upset about this because we know that when we ride bumper cars, we are going to get hit… Likewise, in our lives, we will inevitably be struck by the criticisms and oversights of others. Will you be disturbed and flustered by what other people do? Realize that it makes no sense to give people such power over you."
We’ve been told that much of success in life has to do with simply showing up. And that is true. But our success is also heavily contingent on being able to get out of our own way—that is, not sabotaging our hard work, relationships and self-esteem with negative and caustic feelings that will erode everything good we’ve done for ourselves. So wear an emotional suit of armor to work and whenever you find yourself around negativity. Don’t take the comments of others, particularly people who don’t have your best interest at heart, too seriously. Know who you are, and be your own best friend and advocate when things go wrong. Know when to take a step back and get out of your own way.
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